Maybe this well help someone to hear because I certainly figured it out the hard way many years too late.
Our children are growing up every day hearing the message that certain foods are bad and we need to restrict or cutout or track in order to change the way we look. Whether we mean to or not the message is that is where our value is. Yes a-lot of us have a problem and we have taken the thing that is meant to feed us and sustain us and turned it into a drug or something to numb us. We gorge ourselves on portions 2 or 3 times what we need then spend the rest of the week punishing ourselves for it either by restricting what we beat or workouts only meant to cancel calories. Little eyes see this and little ears hear it. Every time you talk about your size or your weight or compare yourselves to the next person they get the message that our bodies are what define us. When I think of all the times Mariah saw me controlling what I ate or heard me making comments about being unhappy with my body it breaks my heart. Our kids need to see us eating because we are hungry and see us being active because we enjoy it and it makes us feel good and strong!
There is a multi billion dollar industry that is feeding off of our beliefs that we are not good enough and a program or app or pill or shake will change that for us! Yet even with all those things available to us we are people who struggle daily with our body image and insecurities. Those companies are not advertising to us because they care about our wellness. They know we will pay anything for a quick fix rather than figure out why we have such an unhealthy relationship with food. And the young people around us are right there seeing and hearing those advertisements! Please think about how this affects them!
I’m done with it. I don’t ever want to talk about calories or my size again or worry about dressing in a way that is flattering to my shape. I do want to eat foods that provide me with vitamins and nutrients and find a way to deal with stress in a way that doesn’t involve laying on the couch for hours pretending my stress doesn’t exist but it will never again be about my size. I refuse to spend any more time and energy on that. I just wish I had figured it out sooner.